We all have them…
Some men have lost their fathers, some never knew them, some of them were there but not present, and some were there and too present.
Every man I’ve ever asked,“Did you have a strained relationship with your dad?” has had some degree of hurt involved. And what dad‘s either don’t know or we’re never told is that your main job is to forge your son’s identity.
What you say and do, how you react, how you discipline, how you teach and how you love your son (and daughter too) forms their identity FOR THEIR LIFE!!
Think about how your dad was or wasn’t; now look at your life, and see where things haven’t gone so well for you. How did those things parallel what your father taught you through his words and actions?
If your life has been sunshine and rainbows, your one of a few. But if you haven’t experienced that there is hope. Hope rests in that it is never too late to heal these wounds. It is never to late to reconcile and forgive, because the truth is your dad didn’t know what he didn’t know, and he was doing his best. He was also terrified that he was going to cause you hardship but because I firmly believe all fathers would lay their lives down for their children, HE DID NOT INTEND to cause you pain or suffering!
I believe it is imperative we recognize we’ve been wounded in whatever way by our fathers and that we must reconcile these feelings so we can flourish.
What do you need to do today to reconcile this for yourself?
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